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EDIT: I edited this tidbit up here so people can see the point of this thread before they have to read down any further. My girlfriend was in a motorcycle accident. If anybody has a spare second to just leave a line or two of well-wishes for her (her name is Jessie), I would like to copy and paste them into a Word Document, and if it gets long enough, print it out for her to see that people are rooting for her. This is the end of my EDIT... original post follows:

I was at my girlfriend's house on Tuesday afternoon, and was waiting for her to get home from hanging out with a friend of hers (he is a male). They were out for a ride on his motorcycle.

They hit a deer.

My girlfriend was thrown from the motorcycle, and skidded across the pavement, over the shoulder, and into a creek.

Luckily, her friend pulled her out of the creek, removed her helmet (actually a bad idea, but hindsight is 20/20)... and called 911 using her cellphone.

He (the friend) wasn't in very bad shape - he stayed holding on to the bike... my girlfriend, who was thrown, was lucky enough to escape any SERIOUS injury, like broken bones or major internal injuries... but she has severe "road rash" in many places, the worst being both hands, most of her right arm, right shoulder, her back, and her right hip.

She's not in very good shape, although she did get out of the hospital last night. She's in a lot of pain, and seems to have semi-serious ligament damage to the right knee and right shoulder. I spent most of today taking care of her and trying to make her see that she doesn't have to feel alone.. for any reason.. ever.

I'm a little emotional right now - so you'll have to excuse me if I make even less sense than I usually do. It's just... it was very hard to see her in such a state. The woman I have dedicated my life to keeping safe, warm, protected, and loved... and I was helpless to do anything.

She called me from the back of the ambulance... I could hear the sirens before she told me she wasn't in "real danger"... those moments were the most frightening of my life.

I don't know what I would've done. What if it had been "I'm on the way to the hospital... I wanted to call you... they don't know if I'm going to make it..."

I can't even fathom. I've been with her 2 years... and in case anyone is wondering, I'm 26 years old - this isn't some teenage love-affair...

So, I'm so thankful, because this could've been worse... so much worse when a motorcycle is involved.

But at the same time I feel so useless... I can't even hold her because of all the pain she's in.

I guess all I'm doing right now is asking for people's thoughts and prayers for her - so she can recover quickly and so she hopefully won't have to look at scars all over her body for the rest of her life.

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as far as any lessons learned... if you have someone you love, and you haven't told them that in the last little while... YOU SHOULD.

The call I got yesterday afternoon could've just as easily been a call letting me know I'd lost the only thing that really matters to me in my life, instead of her letting me know she was on the way to the hospital.

This has put a lot of things in perspective for me. Don't get off the phone angry... not if you can possibly help it. Don't let someone walk out the door in the middle of a fight. God forbid... what if you never get another chance to tell them you love them?

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Most importantly, I am glad she is going to be OK, thank the Lord for helmets. It's nice to read that you want to hold her and comfort her and shame you can't. It could have been so much worse, so be thankful, but also be aware.

You ending comments are so true and important. I never go to bed angry, I always tell my family I love them, because you never know.

Hopefully the damage to her ligaments is not that bad and requires nothing more than time.

Be at her side and tell her that you'll help her through it.

Once she is resting go beat down the guy who was driving and see if you can get some venison jerky.

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Most importantly, I am glad she is going to be OK, thank the Lord for helmets. It's nice to read that you want to hold her and comfort her and shame you can't. It could have been so much worse, so be thankful, but also be aware.

You ending comments are so true and important. I never go to bed angry, I always tell my family I love them, because you never know.

Hopefully the damage to her ligaments is not that bad and requires nothing more than time.

Be at her side and tell her that you'll help her through it.

Once she is resting go beat down the guy who was driving and see if you can get some venison jerky.

Thanks for your kind words, Pirate.

And Venison jerky (and burgers), by the way: Friggin' Deeeeee-LISH. :wink:

As for the guy that was driving... as you might imagine, I'm not super-thrilled about her having male friends, but I've reached the age where baseless jealousy has to be put aside... BUT... I did tell him, that he's lucky he already went to the hospital, because (even though it wasn't REALLY his fault), I would've been sure to put his ass in one for what he let happen to my baby.

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Me too, pujols.

I just got off the phone with her... she's having trouble sleeping. I'd be there with her, but she's not at her apartment right now, she's staying with her mom (which is good, she's a health-educator) for at least a little bit. And me staying with her at her parents' house... yeah... probably not going to happen. I told her parents I wanted to stay on the couch, and they said that was more-than-okay... but she knows I can't really ever sleep unless it's in my own bed or her bed (I'm like a baby, so sue me)... so she practically forced me to come home.

I just don't know what to do... I feel like I'm not doing something... something I should be doing... but she keeps telling me I've done so much more than she would've ever expected somebody to do... but I don't feel that way at all. I feel so frustrated... I want to have the power to make everything alright for her RIGHT NOW.

But I know this isn't about ME... I just wish... I don't even know. UUUGGGHHH. So frustrating. I feel so powerless over all this.

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Hey all... I thought I might try to do something to cheer her up. She knows about my secret-dorkiness, and is familiar with my frequenting of this website...

...so if anybody had a spare second to just leave a line or two of well-wishes for her (her name is Jessie), I would like to copy and paste them into a Word Document, and if it gets long enough, print it out for her to see that people are rooting for her. I know it might seem like I'm over-dramatacizing this, since she's not exactly on death's door, but she's a young woman and has never had a serious injury like this (I've gone thru it a couple times).

I'm just trying to do something nice for her, while simultaneously showing her my dorky baseball-website addiction (lol) can be good for her too! :) Thanks in advance for anyone that helps her (and me) out! :)

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Jeez, I feel bad for you and your girlfriend. My dad flipped over the front of a motorbike in the Poconos and tore up his elbow pretty bad. That's serious stuff that happens in motorcycle accidents, hopefully your girlfriend won't have any lasting pain from that. If you're doing everything you can to be supportive, that's the important thing, RaptorQuiz.

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Oh, and just in case anybody was wondering:

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This is a pic of her. She is the one w/ the glasses.

The one on the far left is a friend, then her sister, then her, then another friend.

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I know I'm sort of bumping my own thread here, and thus violating the rules/regulations of the site... but I just wanted to say... it would only take a second to type "get well soon" or "feel better" or "I'm praying for you"... etc. That's all I'm asking. Just a 5-second message that I could cut-and-paste into a word document, that might end up being pretty impressive in length, considering the number of members here that could participate if they're willing to take a second of their time to wish another human being well.

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I can't even begin to tell you guys how much it means to me that you're willing to take a moment of your time to do this for me, and for my girlfriend. When I give a printout of all this to her, I know she will be so stunned and happy. I will be sure to check back in with her reaction. :) It's like reality TV. lol.

In the mean time - keep those well-wishes coming. The more the merrier!

And thank you again. With all the horrible happenings in the world - it's refreshing to see people take a second to help someone out.

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Good to see a Cubs fan here. Reminds me - the first baseball game she and I ever went to was a Cards-Cubs game... and I rmember, we were sitting next to some Cubs fans (who we actually had a great time with)... but she thought the word I came up with at the time was hilarious.

Instead of "cooties" being what we might catch from Cubs fans... it was "Coobies." I know. I'm a giant dork. But hey - you gotta do somethin' to make your girlfriend love you, right?

Either way, thanks for the support, and (once again), keep the well-wishes coming. We're up to page 4 on the word-document - it would be awesome to make it like 10 pages or something - it would make her (and me) feel so good!

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I ride a Suzuki gsxr100 to work everyday, and have lost two mates in motorcycles accidents, so best wishes and a quick recovery. We are all wishing the best from Australia.

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Best wishes to your girlfriend, tell her KC says that having the helmet on throughout the motorcycle ride = Clutch. Definitely.

Anything to prevent a major head injury in an accident like this is clutch.

As for the ligament damage, that will heal in the long run, and the fact that she is alive after going through all of this is a true blessing.

Oh and if she is watching or something, lol this is so cheesy...:

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Hello Jessie, I am very sorry to learn that this has happened to you. I wish you a speedy recovery from your injuries. Take it slow and before you know it you will be feeling a lot better. Best wishes to you.

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